A real life story and experience of a girl who lived a carefree life full of parental pampering until she got married. After marriage, it was like she had stepped into the real world from some fantasy place. She does not want to reveal her true identity, though. She wishes to reveal her bitter life experience to the world and how she took this bitterness to her best advantage. Here it goes, in her words.
“My real story
Willing not to reveal my true identity, my true name, I call myself, ‘She’, ‘Jack of all trades and master of none’. You will be surprised to hear this as it can be a derogatory remark for someone, but, I am not offended to apply it on me. I love to try, if not excel in, performing each and every activity possible to be done in this world. Trying hands on electronic keyboard and making my mother mad with the tunes I play randomly, plunging into the dance competitions without any prior preparation when so many learned dancers have taken part to win it seriously, singing songs rather than listening to them peacefully during late night and then suddenly getting transformed into a career oriented girl who cares about her studies, her job, her parents, her daughter. Yes, that’s me.
Being an Aquarian, I am proud to be trustworthy, honest and friendly. Just like every other human being on this blue planet, I too am not flawless. There might be numerous vices in me. But, I believe in Karmas and always make efforts to lend others my helping hand whenever they require assistance. Evil intentions, be it mine or somebody’s else, is what I continuously try to fight. Our holy books say that whatever we give this world is ultimately returned back to us, and I am firm believer of this. So, I strive hard to think positive about myself and the others, and keep doing good things in life.
I have been so caring and respectful towards my parents. I love them from the depth of my heart. Although, I have severe fights with my mom at times (and I owe it to differences we have in our opinions), my affection and care towards her require no big avowal. Not just my parents, but I am of the view that every parent on this Earth created by the Almighty (that’s what I think of parents that they are gifted to us by God), are to be respected, loved and nurtured in their old age with utmost care.
Since my childhood, till the time right before my marriage, I enjoyed my life thoroughly, caring less for the struggles that I had had to face sometimes, for staying with your father is always a blessing for any daughter. And now when I am not only married but also a mother of a little daughter, I truly cherish those days when all of my desires used to be fulfilled by my father just to see a never ending smile on my face. Somebody has put it so rightly and beautifully, ‘a girl may not be a queen to her husband but is always a beautiful princess to her father’.
My different roles
I have lived as a child, a teenager, a daughter, a sister, a cousin and these phases were so pleasurable and I relished being all of these. And now, I am exposed to the dangerous phases (this is because of mine bitter experiences), I am a daughter-in-law, a sister-in-law and a wife. These stages compel me all the time to forget about being myself, to face the harsh realities of being in other’s home where I am required to even breathe according to them. But…but…I don’t think I am so yielding. I have a daughter and being a mother, I understand the need to be strong enough to raise my gal in an environment that enables her to develop in a way that she can walk hand in hand with this modern world where girls are considered no less than sons.
Talking about the time I spent with my in-laws
I initially was given importance in the other house, but soon I realized that it was because my parents had fulfilled all the demands of my in-laws. When I asked my father to stop giving me all and save the rest for his other children, my siblings, as expected, my respect went down in the eyes of those people. Soon, that diminishing love and respect transformed to daily arguments, violence and physical abuse. Meanwhile, I had a daughter and their hatred grew even more. They were expecting a baby boy. What made me crazy about the situation was my husband’s changing behavior. It was very difficult to bear how he was changing from a good and loving husband to a wife beater and wife abuser, mamma’s boy.
I kept bearing many ugly taunts, and all the abuse rendered to me by them. The reason for this was my parents, their respect in the society, my siblings’ future and my daughter of course.
I broke the barriers
I always revered social justice, and have had high moral values. Instead of succumbing to a male chauvinism, I preferred to break the barriers and moved away from the people and the person who do not believe in gender equality, however, it took me three years to take this decision. Now, I am free, and am making efforts to make a mark in this world and I know I will definitely succeed in it.
If I am inquired about my greatest achievement up till now, I would always proudly and loudly claim it as my being a mother of a lovely daughter. She gave a completely new meaning to my life, a better reason to resume my life in this world. She inspires me to be happy, do something great with my life; for me and for her, something that she can be really proud of her mother. She gives me strength to keep going.
My biggest fear is losing my individuality, my self-respect and confidence. However opposing the circumstances might be, I must never compromise with these qualities. Drinking this life to the lees, succeeding in every venture I put my head into, rearing my daughter well, and keeping my parents’ head high, is all what I have promised myself.
Though I have entered the world with tears in my eyes; yet I am determined to leave it with a smile on my face. I am trying to achieve something big and I am sure I will.
The people who insulted me and my daughter will be the biggest motivators to help me achieve all my dreams. Thanks to those difficult people!”
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