In this era of online shopping and 4G mobile networks, the youth is facing problems like insufficient battery life of their Smartphone, lack of money for a good DSLR camera etc. etc. But, the biggest and often neglected issue among them is the commitment in their relationships. We are being taught from the childhood that marriage is for life, but the situations now-a-days teach us that Marriage is…. till the Divorce and so, youngsters fear marriages. The priority of the young generation is becoming something else other than commitment and marriage. Let’s discuss some facts that are making the youth wary of commitment and marriage.
Getting the benefits without really getting married
In these days the youngsters fear marriages and they do not necessarily have to get married to avail the benefits of marriages. During early times, the youth had to take permission of their parents to travel without them, to party without them. So they used to get married in order to escape the influence of their parents and become free, but now-a-days majority of the parents are letting their children to lead a free life. The youngsters now can also get into an open or a live-in relationship without the messy compromises required in any marriage, so they are opting for an easy way out.
Marriage=compromise=A big ‘NO’ for the young generation
‘And they happily lived ever after’— this line is a fiction; the young generation understands that clearly. They understand like in movies or Mills and Boons stories the perfect boy or perfect girl doesn’t exist in real life. We are human being, we have faults, and it requires a minimum amount of compromise to make a marriage work. But the young generation is reluctant to do so. Today a girl can earn money; a boy can cook or do household works, so the mutual dependence theory doesn’t work in a marriage. So the terminology ‘Compromise’ is getting strictly out of bound for them, so apparently is marriage.
Expectation of the people around related to marriage
The marriage doesn’t concern only the bride and groom, there are the families involved too- this fact sometimes scares the whole prospect of marriage. In the era of family planning, each child is pampered by their parents, and they are well aware of that fact that it is going to change after their marriage, especially for the girls. Nobody gets married these days in their teens, as the age grows the power of compromise also lessens. Aware of these facts, the young generation suffers in a huge dilemma about tying the knot, even it is with the love of their life.
Priority of life is something else, not marriage
The youngsters fear marriages and love to work, make money, spend it by travelling or partying, or just do nothing. They are not so famous for trying to work in a relationship that demands a lot of energy. And a marriage does require A LOT OF ENERGY. The world of free souls today offer a lot of mixing, there are lots of available choices for both the genders, so they are in favor of “Move On” rather than to stay and fight.
The generation is losing trust from the committed relationship
In the era of free mixing, the girls and boys are experiencing a number of romances from very early age. Most of these relationships end in tears, and only the bitterness remains. The generation is experiencing the break-ups of their own, their friends, siblings and cousins and that is leaving a lasting effect on them and making youngsters fear marriages They are slowly losing their faith from the durability of any relationship; the increasing number of divorces is so conspicuous today. So they are becoming more and more in favor of avoiding the holy matrimony.
So the question still stands whether to tie the knot or go for a workaround? Well, this question may steal out the sleeps of many nights; we can only advice in Katrina Kaif (a big B-Town star) style,
“Get married if you find someone who deserves your time”